I can speak from personal experience when I say that there are some people you just wish you had never met.
Perhaps you can't stop whining about a coworker or a manipulative family member.
I ask that anyone who interacts with such individuals avoid becoming entangled. We need to be able to change our focus from how they make us feel to what they contribute to our lives. A person cannot be classified as #toxic if they occasionally act rudely.
We can thus sit down and speak with that individual; persistent lying and gossiping can destroy trust, which is the cornerstone of any relationship.
We may feel sorry for them and sincerely want to assist.
Set boundaries because setting boundaries involves directing what you will and what you won't tolerate, motivating them so that they can reach help, maintaining a distance, not getting too personal with them, and maintaining calm. You can #forgive them, but you cannot forget.
All of us have different stories and backgrounds from where we come from; we suffer from a person's repeated actions. Not only can it be difficult to forgive them, but it can also be tempting to withdraw or walk away to protect ourselves.
When it comes to finding a solution where we can get rid of a #toxic relationship, we feel that letting them go is the best thing, and that leads to all chaos. We feel empty from the inside because of our inability to offer them the compassion and love they may want; we become so selfish and possessive that we think that love is just about getting and not giving.
We all have the necessary skills, but occasionally we may lack them. In these situations, we must learn from our own shortcomings and have the ability to forgive others by understanding their pain and incompetence. It is evident that this individual is the initial casualty of their own misery.
"Suffering is at the base of all... kinds of acts and words that make you suffer."
One question that comes to my mind—
A close friend constantly makes me suffer a lot. Should I still keep in contact with him?
The answer to this question again goes back to what we discussed above: that in dealing with a #toxic relationship, it is difficult to forgive them. If we change ourselves first, we will change the friend inside of us. We start molding ourselves in such a way that we would like to see ourselves, and this is how we help our communities to renew them and reconcile with everyone around us.
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