How to deal with toxic people mindfully in your life

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I can speak from personal experience when I say that there are some people you just wish you had never met.

Perhaps you can't stop complaining about a coworker or a manipulative family member.

I urge anyone who interacts with such individuals to avoid becoming entangled in their negativity. We need to shift our focus from how they make us feel to what they contribute to our lives. A person cannot be classified as toxic just because they occasionally act rudely.

We can thus sit down and have a conversation with that individual; however, persistent lying and gossiping can destroy trust, which is the cornerstone of any relationship.

We may feel sorry for them and sincerely want to help.

Set Boundaries

Setting boundaries is important because it involves determining what you will and won’t tolerate. This helps you protect yourself while still motivating the individual to seek help if needed. Maintaining a distance, not getting too personal with them, and staying calm are key aspects. You can forgive them, but you cannot forget the harm caused.

All of us have different stories and backgrounds, and we may suffer from another person’s repeated actions. It’s not only difficult to forgive them, but it can also be tempting to withdraw or walk away to protect ourselves.

When it comes to finding a solution in a toxic relationship, we may feel that letting them go is the best thing to do, but this often leads to chaos. We may feel empty inside because of our inability to offer them the compassion and love they may need. We can become so selfish and possessive that we think love is only about receiving, not giving.

We all have the necessary skills, but sometimes we may lack them. In these situations, we must learn from our shortcomings and develop the ability to forgive others by understanding their pain and incompetence. It’s clear that this individual is the first casualty of their own misery.

"Suffering is at the base of all… kinds of acts and words that make you suffer."

One question that comes to my mind:

A close friend constantly makes me suffer. Should I still keep in contact with him?

The answer to this question ties back to what we discussed earlier: in dealing with a toxic relationship, it’s difficult to forgive them. If we change ourselves first, we can also change the way we perceive the friend. By molding ourselves in a way that reflects who we want to be, we help renew our communities and reconcile with everyone around us.

Disclaimer:

This post is for motivational and informational purposes only and does not substitute professional advice.